In psychology, there's a very interesting term called intermittent reinforcement, which translates to "slap and give a date palm."

What are the consequences of this?
Initially, it causes you to lower your bottom line, self-justify, even when many things are wrong.
Then it leads to cognitive dissonance, making you no longer trust your feelings, emotions, or judgments.
Finally, you become completely centered around the other person's emotions.
Be wary of high-concentration emotional value from the start, and the feelings of the true soulmate or the destined one—that's just temptation. Or it could be traumatic attraction, a sense of familiarity.
In the early stages of judgment, if you can sense the other's malice through your feelings, you really need to be careful.
Experiencing PUA (Pick-Up Artist tactics) feels really intense—so satisfying, it messes with your mind.
You also sense a faint malice from the other side—like a kid, "You want to run? Watch me use some tricks."
That's how, after studying psychology and watching K-line charts, I’ve become a bit obsessed. Playing memes and watching K-lines is the same—sometimes it makes you scratch your head in frustration.
The plot goes like this:
Playing memes every day, making LP (liquidity provider)
Seeing a meme with good conditions, at first, why isn’t it dropping? Why is it still rising?
In the relationship, it’s like, "Why isn’t he paying attention to me?"
No, I have to top up, chase the high.
In the relationship, it’s like, "Increase the effort, chase a bit more."
Finally, it drops in, feels like I caught it, and things start to fluctuate.
In the relationship, it’s the honeymoon phase.
Suddenly, a sharp drop—"What the heck, why did it fall so much? Something’s not right. Stay calm, I want to run."
In the relationship, it’s sudden coldness—so painful.
Then it bounces back, feels good again, I’ve gained something (in the relationship, "It’s back, feeling good").
The most exciting part: isn’t LP just happily eating up? Okay, the climax is over, and then—bam!—it gets poured on hard, breaking through a range.
I add more, another range, I add again, still break-even, waiting for a big whale to come.
(In the relationship, it’s like, "Aren’t you feeling great now? I’m testing how much more you can give. First, I break one boundary, oh, that’s okay, I’ll try again, breaking another boundary. Oh, you can really give, really endure. Okay, that’s good, let’s leave it at that.")
As time goes on, the volume decreases, the K-line stabilizes, and it can’t rise much anymore—no surprises. It continues to decline, and finally, a range breaks.
Feeling depressed, what to do? Is this meme no good anymore?
(In the relationship, it’s like, "I’m already like this, why isn’t he satisfied? What should I do? Wait, or cut losses and walk away? No, what if he’s just in a bad mood?")
By this point, the Christmas tree is almost coming down. I don’t believe it—I believe I control my fate, not the heavens. This meme is true love.
❤️ Never give up, I buy the dip and add more. As long as I get a small whale, I can break even.
(In the relationship, it’s like, "Again, increasing effort, going all-in.")
At this stage, there are two outcomes: one, it’s truly a Christmas tree; two, a big whale has come—climbing step by step to the top, becoming like Zhao Gao (a treacherous court official).
But usually, Christmas trees are common, and Zhao Gao is rare.
(In the relationship, the result is terrible—unexpected plot twist.)
This is a common psychological process of wanting to be Zhao Gao in LP, and also a typical script of a giver personality.
Most LPers are still givers; hardly anyone wants to be Zhao Gao.
A few are scumbags—take a bite and leave, the next one is more obedient.
And I’ve gone beyond just being a giver or a scumbag—free to give and take.