The Essence of Marriage:

1. The Iron Law: Poverty-Stricken Couples Are Always Miserable
Most conflicts in marriage, such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, parenting pressures, and lifestyle clashes, can fundamentally be resolved through sufficient income and clear financial planning. The economic foundation determines the stability of marriage; without material security, love is fragile in the face of reality.

2. The Three Layers of Marriage
Lower-level Marriage: Essentially for reproduction and sharing daily life, a survival need.
Middle-level Marriage: For acquiring resources and elevating social status, an exchange of interests.
Upper-level Marriage: Pursuing strategic alliances and resource integration, a strategic layout.
Love has never been the core purpose of marriage; it is merely a lubricant for cooperation.

Core Principle of Choosing a Partner: Stay Away from “Fools”

1. What is a “Fool”?
Here, “fool” does not refer to IQ but to someone with low cognitive levels, emotional instability, serious family background issues, and who is skilled at using suppression, denial, PUA, and other means to drain you.

2. The Cost of Marrying a “Fool”
They will do everything possible to drag you down to their level, using low-level tactics to continuously suppress you, ultimately dragging you into a bottomless pit of stupidity, making you compromise and spend your entire life exhausted.

3. The Golden Rule of Choosing a Partner
Do not try to change a person; people are very difficult to change. Your role is to screen, not to educate.
Avoid having a “saintly heart,” and do not marry someone who is far inferior to you in all aspects out of sympathy. Sympathy does not equal love.
Try to choose a partner with a similar social level; the gap should not exceed 1.5 levels, or the communication costs and internal friction will become unbearable.

3. The Truth After Marriage: Love Comes from Responsibility and Capability

1. Love Before Marriage Is Emotional; Love After Marriage Is Rational
The passion and romance before marriage will quickly fade amidst daily chores and routines. Love after marriage is more about responsibility, commitment, and problem-solving ability.

2. Do Not Expect to Change Your Partner After Marriage
Pre-existing flaws will only be magnified after marriage. Do not expect your partner to suddenly become mature, ambitious, or considerate after tying the knot.

3. Security Comes from Yourself
The sense of security in marriage is never given by the other person but by your own financial independence and mental independence. Instead of spending time studying your partner, focus on improving yourself.

4. Final Advice

In this life, the biggest mistake you can make is in marriage. Unlike other matters where there is room for remedy, choosing the wrong partner can cost you not just a few years but can completely rewrite your life story, often ending in tragedy.