Have you ever experienced this: clearly sincerely sharing your progress, only to be met with mockery? Or just casually posting some daily life moments, and suddenly becoming the subject of gossip behind your back?

Actually, there is a very painful psychological phenomenon behind this—relative deprivation and social comparison.

In simple terms, many people live in a潜在的匮乏感 (potential sense of scarcity). Resources are limited, opportunities are scarce, so everyone subconsciously compares themselves to those around them to confirm their position. If you are doing well, it unconsciously reflects their "incompetence" and "failure." At such times, people might greet you with a smile on their face, but secretly hope you stumble.

The most frightening is the group effect. As soon as one person starts "dissing" you, the entire environment will inexplicably become hostile towards you—just like when a dog barks at the village entrance, and all the dogs in the village follow suit. They don't need a reason; your "difference" and your success become the original sin.

When you showcase your superiority loudly—changing to a better car, buying a new house, your child's outstanding grades—their perception isn't sharing anymore, but naked provocation. Your progress becomes a thorn in their hearts.

This rule applies in any community. Recognizing this, you'll understand why sometimes maintaining humility and appropriately hiding your strength is actually a form of survival wisdom.