The fundamental reason why a husband loses his job and his wife blames him: one is a person whose sense of dignity depends on external conditions, and the other is someone who needs to belittle others to confirm their self-worth. When these two come together, they form a closed cycle of humiliation, and neither can leave because this cycle satisfies each other's twisted psychological needs.

A person who can long-term accept an abusive relationship pattern is not primarily driven by money, but by their basic understanding of how they deserve to be treated. Money is just a trigger; what it exposes is the underlying pattern that has existed between them for a long time.

How does psychology explain this kind of man?
There is a precise psychological concept called learned helplessness—proposed by American psychologist Martin Seligman. The core idea is: after experiencing repeated uncontrollable pain, even if the environment changes and the pain can be avoided, the person will not take action but instead despairingly accept it.

In marriage, this manifests as:
Long-term criticism → forming the belief that nothing I do is good enough
Internalizing being scolded as normal and true, no longer resisting
Even starting to believe that I can't earn money and that being scolded is justified

This pattern often does not start after unemployment but is a continuation of the power structure that has existed in the marriage for a long time. Unemployment merely makes it go from hidden to overt.

Why does this kind of man allow such a woman to stay by his side?
Psychologically, this is called trauma bonding through mutual complementarity—roughly:
A person accustomed to being belittled and believing they are not worthy of resistance (usually from critical/negating upbringing)
Happens to meet someone who needs to control others to gain a sense of security
Their patterns fit each other precisely, each satisfying the other's deep-seated twisted needs

So, their being together is not accidental but a certain kind of matching.