Ordinary people without family support must seize the opportunity to resolve their psychological issues of father and mother complex early on. Do not be a pushover, or you may be drained by those around you with low awareness. Because in environments where both spiritual and material wealth are lacking, everyone's primary focus is on the most basic survival needs and safety needs. Food, warmth, reproduction, competition, property, self-preservation—when these lower-level needs are not well met, people cannot reach higher-level needs.

What are the higher-level needs? There are three: love and belonging, esteem needs, and self-actualization at the top. Therefore, in many ordinary or even impoverished families, there is no true love. It’s not that your parents or family are inherently emotionally indifferent; rather, their upbringing environment has not equipped them with the ability to love others.

For ordinary people with no support behind them, if you have not yet recognized the significant cognitive limitations of your parents, and if you are still trying to gain their approval by being a obedient and compliant child, you are walking down a path with a visible end. That end is you repeating your parents’ mistakes, passing down their psychological wounds through intergenerational transmission, and your next generation will experience the same pain within the original family as you did.

So, stop viewing the world through others’ perspectives, stop seeing it through your parents’ eyes. You need to develop your own perspective—listen, observe, judge, and make your own choices.