Not being close to your child means you haven't raised them properly. If you haven't invested energy and effort into your child, why would they be close to you? Emotions are cultivated, not created by inputting negative feelings. So, how do you judge if a child has been well-raised? If a child exhibits the following six characteristics, it indicates a solid internal foundation. Even if they leave the family in the future, they will have strong adaptability and resilience.

First, able to eat and sleep: a sense of security is sufficient. Eating with focus, sleeping relaxedly. This shows they are psychologically relaxed, and that parents have provided a stable sense of security and a trusting environment.

Second, willing to chatter with you: a good relationship connection. They proactively share daily life, vent, gossip, indicating a close parent-child relationship, smooth communication, and also demonstrating their ability to connect with others.

Third, has ideas and boundaries: formation of a sense of agency. Clearly knows what they like and dislike, sometimes listens to parents, sometimes argues or talks back, indicating they are respected and have developed a clear self-awareness.

Fourth, has their own hobbies: vitality and enthusiasm. Hobbies don't necessarily have to be "useful" or "profitable," such as gourmet food, music, pets, shopping, collecting, etc., showing they have interest and passion for life itself.

Fifth, not easily crushed by evaluations: self-stability. Can self-repair when facing grades, criticism, peer pressure, and possesses a relatively stable self-evaluation system, indicating parents have provided enough acceptance and permission, forming healthy psychological boundaries.

Sixth, has a sense of reality and longing. Has expectations and desires for the real world, with specific, realistic wishes: wanting to go to a certain city, open a small shop, or have a stable home. This shows they are not immersed in the virtual world, and have a sense of direction and motivation for action. In the present and future, this will become increasingly valuable.

In summary, children who possess these six points: are emotionally stable, full of vitality, have aspirations for reality, and regardless of where they go or what challenges they face, they are less likely to collapse. Because what parents truly nurture is not just their abilities, but their heart, giving them a complete and powerful life.